Comment by pepper_sauce

The behaviour as described doesn't sound toxic unless they're using it to bully and are persisting after having discussed it. Your communication styles don't match and you need to handle it like any other inter-personal problem: talk to them about it. If you don't feel up to doing it 1 on 1 then ask your manager to help. If you've done all that then I'd say there's a problem and you need to escalate your response.