In the US none of my friends went to a top university and we all make a good living as programmers (150k+). Of course we're from the previous generation (in our late 30s) and things might be different for people in their 20s.
Edit to add: my dad dropped out of high school. My mom did not have a college degree. My siblings and I are the first generation in our extended family to graduate from college. None of us went to private school. My siblings have a similar income to me: 1 works as a CPA, 1 as a lawyer, and 1 as a software project manager.
I still consider myself lucky, and recognize that not everyone may have had the same support as we had growing up.
Edit to add: my dad dropped out of high school. My mom did not have a college degree. My siblings and I are the first generation in our extended family to graduate from college. None of us went to private school. My siblings have a similar income to me: 1 works as a CPA, 1 as a lawyer, and 1 as a software project manager.
I still consider myself lucky, and recognize that not everyone may have had the same support as we had growing up.