Let me respectfully suggest that part of the problem may be
your gender. Men and women both expect women to do emotional labor on behalf of others, often to an unreasonable degree.
If that is a factor, there's no easy solution. But if it is a factor, it may help to be aware of the issue. If you aren't familiar, emotional labor is kind of a hot catch phrase and there are articles and discussions out there.
I tend to be good at the emotional labor thing and it has a history of getting me imposed upon to an unreasonable degree. People often expect me to deeply respect them and kiss their boo-boos and make them feel okay about everything. This often occurs while I am being treated very disrespectfully and can't get my needs met.
If you are the CTO, why is peacemaking your job? That isn't usually one of the official duties of a CTO, is it?
If that is the issue, you will need to learn to alter your behavior so people feel less free to impose in this manner. You will also need to think through just how much you need to be interceding in the relationships of employees.
You can work on doing ice breaker exercises and team building exercises etc. But if the real problem is that you are being viewed as the team mom and people want you to fix everything and expect perfection, that may not fully resolve the issue.
If that is a factor, there's no easy solution. But if it is a factor, it may help to be aware of the issue. If you aren't familiar, emotional labor is kind of a hot catch phrase and there are articles and discussions out there.
I tend to be good at the emotional labor thing and it has a history of getting me imposed upon to an unreasonable degree. People often expect me to deeply respect them and kiss their boo-boos and make them feel okay about everything. This often occurs while I am being treated very disrespectfully and can't get my needs met.
If you are the CTO, why is peacemaking your job? That isn't usually one of the official duties of a CTO, is it?
If that is the issue, you will need to learn to alter your behavior so people feel less free to impose in this manner. You will also need to think through just how much you need to be interceding in the relationships of employees.
You can work on doing ice breaker exercises and team building exercises etc. But if the real problem is that you are being viewed as the team mom and people want you to fix everything and expect perfection, that may not fully resolve the issue.