Exactly. I have no problem calling a genetic male "she" that's what she prefers. I take issue with being held to a standard of somehow needing to "know" that ahead of time, and respect it, with no effort on the part of the woman in question.
I'm perfectly able to be understanding in these cases, but I'm not capable to be psychic.
I'm perfectly able to be understanding in these cases, but I'm not capable to be psychic.