First of all, why do you claim that opposing gay marriage is causing harm? Those with the strongest arguments against gay marriage will argue that it is a false idea and that its legal recognition is harmful both to society and the individuals involved. You claim that is it harmful to oppose gay marriage why? Because it prevents gay couples from receiving the recognition of the state as a married couple?
The fervor and zeal of many pro-gay marriage advocates, their readiness to slander those opposed to gay marriage as harmful bigots, and the claim that gay marriage is a right doesn't square with the arguments they give. The thrust seems to be: everyone must recognize what I want recognized because I want it to be recognized. Otherwise, you're a hateful bigot who wishes to harm me.
The fervor and zeal of many pro-gay marriage advocates, their readiness to slander those opposed to gay marriage as harmful bigots, and the claim that gay marriage is a right doesn't square with the arguments they give. The thrust seems to be: everyone must recognize what I want recognized because I want it to be recognized. Otherwise, you're a hateful bigot who wishes to harm me.