There are a couple of things worth mentioning here.
1. "I have kids that I can use my vacation time for". If you think this way, you shouldn't apply for a job at a startup. You need to be prepared that there is a good chance for you to not spend a minute with your family, nor to have a vacation, over next months/years.
2. From what I learned, startups don't necessarily hire the best technical person. The are looking for the best motivated one. From what you write, it may appear that you are not really motivated/interested.
A few years back I was looking for a job and spent about half a year to manage that. Got rejected by, probably, 100 companies, and got only two offers. And not because I am a jerk or technically incompetent. It's just in most cases I was not really interested, and I believe people saw that. So, it looked really strange and unfortunate to me, but I totally understand why it happened, and don't blame anyone except for myself.
Usually, it's your fault, in fact. You might be not well prepared, you didn't sleep last night, you don't care about the company/product, you don't have enough skills that they require, you behave offensive, you are late for the interview, and so on.
You know, I am not defending the interviewers and hiring managers, but they all have their point as well. It's you who wants to change your job, so it's all on you. Regardless of how ridiculous the interview process may appear to you.
1. "I have kids that I can use my vacation time for". If you think this way, you shouldn't apply for a job at a startup. You need to be prepared that there is a good chance for you to not spend a minute with your family, nor to have a vacation, over next months/years.
2. From what I learned, startups don't necessarily hire the best technical person. The are looking for the best motivated one. From what you write, it may appear that you are not really motivated/interested.
A few years back I was looking for a job and spent about half a year to manage that. Got rejected by, probably, 100 companies, and got only two offers. And not because I am a jerk or technically incompetent. It's just in most cases I was not really interested, and I believe people saw that. So, it looked really strange and unfortunate to me, but I totally understand why it happened, and don't blame anyone except for myself.
Usually, it's your fault, in fact. You might be not well prepared, you didn't sleep last night, you don't care about the company/product, you don't have enough skills that they require, you behave offensive, you are late for the interview, and so on.
You know, I am not defending the interviewers and hiring managers, but they all have their point as well. It's you who wants to change your job, so it's all on you. Regardless of how ridiculous the interview process may appear to you.