Comment by tajen

I recognize I'm in this situation, but I have no idea what one could do to make a life meaningful, outside of good work or raising great kids, hopefully with a loving partner. I have already tried many things: Living in 3 other countries for 4 years in total (but I was missing family and friends support), being self-employed (I do B2B software like P.McKenzie), learning to dance (3 times, but I feel crap at it), music, judo, hundreds hours of volunteering (social, like activities for kids or refugees or mid-suburbs, or climate) but at one point it feels like cheap exploitation of underpaid workers, ... My sister climbs summits or goes to the end of herself (6000km biking anyone?) but I don't see the point. Those experiences never made me feel happy or fulfilled with my life (I'm 33). Only having a girlfriend once fulfilled me (until she dumped me like "you don't have leadership with your life") but you didn't count "partner" among things that fulfill your free time, did you? Let's be honest, I find life a bit boring ;) So what do you mean with "structure and accomplishment"? Do you have examples?