Comment

Comment by nether

If you represent yourself accurately and make the selection process as transparent as possible for women, you will have success on Tinder. This optimizes the problem for women, which seems misplaced given that women already have an abundance of choice. It's designed to whittle down the field for women. For most men, the field is more barren and a different strategy makes more sense: appeal to as many women as possible, get your foot in the door with an actual date, then let your actual interaction determine further outcomes.

> I don't have the experience of being a man on Tinder

I think this is the fatal flaw. I'd value the advice of a man who looks like me who has managed to be successful on Tinder 100x over any woman's. He has faced the same challenges as I, you have not. It's the same as talking to a white person about racism, or trying to discuss gender privilege with a man. The privileged can speculate on the difficulties of the less privileged, but has never felt them. The gulf in life experience has an enormous effect on quality of advice.

parent nether 10 years ago

Discussion

Live from the official Hacker News API

A modern reader for Hacker News · SvelteKit + Skeleton